Failure is not optional because we certainly don’t always win.
“Winning is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion someday.” Wilma Rudolph
So often in our culture today we don’t teach our children how to lose. And how to get back up again after they do lose. And how to lose graciously. Part of the problem with always giving everyone a participation ribbon is that once they leave high school, the world, college and university don’t function like that. We have to make it on our own merit. Learning how to lose builds resiliency!
So much depends on our attitude in losing. I may just be waxing on here about “find the silver lining” but isn’t there something almost comforting about knowing how big the sandbox is you get to play in?
So, take a look around at the things that cannot be changed and instead of just accepting them and moving on, try to look for some of the value in the clarity that the unchangeable gives.
“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world. Constantly color your picture gray, and your picture will always be bleak. Try adding some bright colors to the picture by including humor, and your picture begins to lighten up.” Allen Klein
New leaders need an environment where they can fail and get back up again. We practice this with our Skills And Leadership Training program. We call it “Failing with Dignity“. Our SALTers have the opportunity to learn lots during their time at Widji and part of that is in the third week of the program they participate with the campers in leading cabin devotions, leading in chapel and camp games. We want them to try out their leadership in a safe environment. Camp offers that opportunity to be coached & grow in new skills.
Fall down seven times, get up eight. Japanese proverb. Don’t get stuck in “I wish it wasn’t like this” thoughts. Get BACK Up!!