Marriage isn’t the paper. It’s not the rings or the ceremony either. It’s the relationship of husband and wife each giving 100% of themselves to make it the best relationship they have. It’s hard work and commitment. It’s about love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship and faith.
Tom Selleck (Blue Bloods, Magnum P.I.) says, “Jillie and I have a pretty good partnership. We don’t do anything or make any decisions without consulting each other. And if one of us makes a decision involving Hannah, the other parent completely supports that position, even if you disagree. It’s important to nurture your marriage. I think wanting time away from work has been good for that.”
Vice President Mike Pence, who famously does not have meetings alone with women who are not his wife. Pence, by his own confession, abides by this policy because he is a Christian man who wishes to honor God, protect his marriage, and not put the women he works with in a compromising position.
The following “recipe” for a happy marriage was given to us as part of a cook book when Elaine and I got married. Thanks Anne!
- 1 cup of consideration
- 2 cup of courtesy
- 2 cups of flattery, carefully concealed
- 2 cups milk of human kindness
- 1 gallon of faith in God & each other
- 2 cups of praise
- 1 small pinch of in-laws
- 1 reasonable budget
- A generous dash of cooperation
- 3 tsp. of pure extract of “I am sorry”
- 1 cup of contentment
- 1 cup each of contentment & encouragement
- 2 children at least
- 1 large or several small hobbies
- 1 cup of blindness to each other’s faults
- Flavour frequently with portions of recreation and a dash of happy memories.
- Stir well and remove any specks of jealousy, temper or criticism
- Sweeten with generous portions of love and keep warm with a steady flame of devotion
- Never serve with a cold shoulder or hot tongue!